I have hit a point where I honestly and truly do not know how to answer the stupid question that you know the person should very well know the answer to. "How are you doing?" or "What's wrong?"
My husband died less than 3 months ago. My world crumbled beneath me less than 3 months ago. It's not something you just get over. I'm not okay. I'm no going to be okay. I won't pretend that I am okay because it should not be expected for me to be okay, especially right now. Instead, when I shake my head with my tear filled eyes, I get a pat on the back with the "hang in there". Please don't ask the question that you know the answer to when you don't even know how to respond to it. You're honestly making it worse. You make it worse when you pat me on the back, tell me to "hang in there" and then you walk away, leaving me to cry alone. You aren't helping- you are hurting.
I realize that I have to surround myself with the right people but they can't save me from these random things. I am therefore begging people to stop. Please stop asking the question that you know the answer to because I will either fall apart or you will walk away. I promise that you won't get a positive answer anyway.
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