I made a joke on social media yesterday in light of the tons of memes and posts from friends during this quarantine. This is so frequent that even Derrick Jaxn chimed in.
I asked my friend if I was being arrogant with my statement that I know if Randy were alive, we would be golden through this. We truly cherished our time together. I looked forward to him coming home so that I could have those 6 hours with him before bed. On the weekends, we were absorbed in each other. But even my friends agree that we would have passed this quarantine with flying colors. We would have cherished this time together.
What concerns me are the social media posts and the soaring divorce proceedings. Yesterday, I joked on Facebook in a status that some shared.
"I think we need to add to the wedding vows. 'For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer' add 'in quarantine and freedom'"
I agree with Derrick Jaxn when he said that if all you can give your relationship is your 2%, which are the times when you're lonely, you want sex, you want to eat, etc but can't survive quarantine with your chosen person, you chose wrong. The fact of the matter is, you should be able to get through this time together. You should be able to lean on each other during these times of uncertainty. I'm not saying that you won't have difficult moments that will test your patience but this shouldn't be the time that drives you to murder or divorce.
Every single year, ladies who have miscarried have to sit here and remind people that pregnancy is not a joke so please don’t make it an April Fools Day joke. I’m asking that you please don’t joke about murdering your spouse. It’s not cute. It’s not funny.
Why don't couples use this time as a blessing and use it to strengthen their relationship as a couple? Why don't people use that time to spend time with their person? See that time as a blessing? Trust me when I say that people like me wish for this time. You still have your person and you should not ever take that for granted.
You have been blessed with an opportunity and I recommend that you do not waste it. Cherish these moments before they are long gone.
I would also request that you think twice before posting about wanting to kill your spouse. Again, it's not funny to people like me who long for their spouse. To those that have filed for divorce or hired a lawyer in the midst of this, take a breath. This is not forever. In a matter of time, this quarantine will be over but you can't take these things back. BREATHE!
At the end of the day, remind yourself of what is important. If your family is important and your relationship is important- PROVE IT! Cherish this time that you otherwise long for during of time of work. You've been given time of rest. Use it. Use it wisely. Cherish it. Do not waste it and later wish you hadn't been whining.
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It’s definitely an adjustment but I feel if we choose to see it as a blessing, it can be a beautiful thing. When else would you have such quality time outside of retirement? You won’t! I think it can be a blessing because you get to have that quality time with your spouse. Like I said, I’m not saying that there won’t be disagreements and patience being tested... I think posting about divorce and murder is going way too far. It’s disrespectful and I wish people would stop.
It is a big transition, though. I usually work split shifts so I wouldn’t get home until 9pm, so my husband and I usually only spend 2-3 waking hours a day together during the week, and we had a lot to do on weekends, especially during my girls’ competitive season which was happening right up to when the virus got crazy. When he was home the first week when I was still working, I’d come home on my split with things I wanted/needed to do and he just wanted to play and I did get annoyed by that. Now we’re both home and the biggest challenge is reminding him not to walk through the workout videos I’m filming to send…